for the right reasons

The women on ABC's The Bachelor throw themselves into competition with 15+ other women all to win the heart of one man, who none of them have met previous to day one of the show's taping. The second - the very second- that these women sign up for this show I believe they give up their right to any form of logical thinking. You have to be some kind of crazy to sign up for that kind of competition with some unknown reward. Some of these girls, though, take crazy to a whole new level.

One of the girls was found to have been dating (perhaps more?) a member of the show's staff. She was removed from the show. The bachelor himself got a bit teary eyed. Here's the clincher: the other 14 girls got to crying as well. Huh? None of you just got cheated on. If anything, one less for the competition! One woman, through tears, said that she didn't think he deserved that kind of deceit. True. But you've been on one date with this man. Do you really cry for him when he gets cheated on after one date with another girl? Issues. Another woman says, through tears, that this reminds her of the deception and lying that gave her the most pain in her last relationship. I can see that. She can cry. Everyone else needs to suck it up. Put this in perspective, ladies: you've been on one date with him. He's been on one date with her. If this were real life, would this even be an issue? No. No. And I am aware that this isn't real life- nowhere NEAR real life- but at some point a step back can be a really beneficial step. These women are all going to be traumatized for life after this.

Let me be clear here, my aim is not to support the offending woman's actions, but everyone is now accusing her of having been here "for the wrong reasons" (and, alternately, "not for the right reasons"). The point of the show is to fall in love with this one man, but if her goal on the show was to meet someone and find love, wasn't she still there for the right reasons? She was still trying to find the man of her dreams.

I just have no sympathy for the bachelor. Any man with his pick of 15 women at any given time can pretty much suck it, in my humble opinion. She wasn't irreplaceable. He barely knew her.

This show drives me crazy. This is such an unreal representation of how love works, how love is found in the world, and how humans operate in general. For these 16 people though, this is how love works. And I'm going to stand by my belief that you have to be some kind of crazy to be in this for any reasons at all, right or wrong.

On the upside, this gets the crazy ones off the streets! Better chances for me. :)

L